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Tips for successful co-parenting

by | Jun 28, 2019 | Uncategorized

Co-parenting is rarely an easy task, especially with couples that have had contentious breakups. However, effective co-parenting can make the transition for your children easier and help them grow up in a healthy and well-adjusted environment.


What does successful co-parenting look like?

While your romantic relationship with your ex-spouse may be strained, effective co-parenting requires both of you to set aside your personal differences and work together for the best interests of your children.

This requires you to communicate with one another effectively, create stability and nourish healthy relationships between your children and both parents.

Here are some tips that can help you co-parent successfully:

  • Develop Rituals: Children need stability to grow up healthily. Divorce can introduce a lot of instability into a child’s family life, as they may have to spend time between two households. Developing consistent rituals around coming and leaving can help the children adjust to their new lives. Rituals could include having a special meal whenever they return to your home or a stop to a specific ice cream store on the way to their other parent’s house.
  • Set common rules and expectations: When your children share time between two homes, they will inevitably notice differences between the two. However, you and your spouse should work together to try and come up with basic expectations for your children. This will provide more stability to the children and give them consistent rules and expectations to follow.
  • Communicate and resolve conflicts as best as possible: Undoubtedly, conflicts will arise between you and your spouse regarding your children. During these moments, it is helpful to try to set aside emotions to communicate and resolve issues effectively.
  • Start fresh with your co-parent: Communicating effectively with an ex-spouse is easier said than done. It may be helpful to compartmentalize your co-parent from your ex-spouse. Try to think of your co-parenting relationship as a brand-new relationship with a completely different person. Doing so may help insulate your parenting from your personal disagreements and can keep the relationship centered around the well-being of your children.

While divorces present challenges, these challenges can be overcome. Though it may not be easy, you and your ex-spouse can work together as a team to effectively co-parent your children.